Compassionate, Wise Psychotherapy for Trauma Survivors

Let me help you improve your relationship to yourself and others. Trauma survivors, especially ones who have undergone emotional, physical or sexual abuse from a loved one, can develop distorted views of themselves that make it hard to love themselves and treat themselves decently. You may find difficulty in your intimate relationships, as well as with coworkers, bosses, children, friends, acquaintances, and business associates. Learning better ways to relate to the various people in your life can make it a lot more rewarding and a lot less stressful. You may have relationship difficulties like these:
  • Partners, friends or loved ones who take advantage of them, hurt them emotionally or physically, or exploit them.
  • Difficulty trusting the other person
  • Difficulty giving oneself fully to a loving relationship
  • Feeling unworthy of another person's kindness or love
  • Difficulty commiting to a long-term relationship
  • Feeling intense anger at loved ones and not knowing what to do with it
  • Experiencing shame and low self-esteem, and allowing people to walk all over them
  • Assuming that any amount of conflict in a relationship is bad and marks the end of the relationship
  • Having unrealistic expectations of what they or their partner should be doing in the relationship
  • Knowing when it's appropriate to be distrustful of a potential friend and when they are being hypervigilant
  • Difficulty protecting their boundaries in healthy, appropriate ways --(either blowing up at people when they step over the line, or doing nothing and resenting it)

I believe that until you feel that you are worthy of the time and effort involved in feeling better, it may be very hard to change these patterns. So unless you feel that, we must first address your motivation, which involves your relationship with yourself. Some of the ways I can help you improve your relationship with yourself and others include:
  • Strengthening your boundaries
  • Increasing your self esteem
  • Managing and expressing your emotions more effectively
  • Developing and improving assertiveness skills
  • Clarifying and strengthening your values and increasing your commitment to upholding your values
  • Building effective social skills to help identify "red flag" people
  • Distinguishing past wounds from present threats
  • Gaining perspective on past experiences.
The tools I use to accomplish this include traditional talk therapy (using primarily Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), EMDR, and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. For more of an explanation of EMDR and DBT, please see the "Healing Techniques" page. I look forward to helping you resolve your trauma and fostering better quality of life for you and your loved ones! Please call 661-233-6771 today so we can get started.